Our Happy Family
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Books of Miracle
Sometime I wish that there is a miracle book that teaches me how to be a mother or even a parent.. Sometime I don't even feel that i'm fit to be one.. This week has been a super tough week still.. Lots of scolding, screaming, Benson crying.. That's when " Discipline " comes in... To be very honest i really Hate dislike to use Discipline.. I think almost all the parents won't like it... That is always the last thing that we can think of because we could not handle the situation & is getting out of hands... I really don't know what had happened... Benson has been really handful lately... It has started from last week... Sometime I'm not angry with him.. But I'm very upset... Very heartache... That why I don't even know how to make my son listen to me... I use explain, soft talk, scold, even cane.. Nothing seem to work.. My heart bleeds.. I know Benson is hurt too.. I mean his feelings.. & Mine too.. Hub Ben used to be the one who is super cool about it most of the time.. & This time even the most coolest man in the house is getting angry with Benson tantrum... I know is very hard for anyone to imagine here.. But I really hope that i will be able to handle this in a better way.. & to be more patience with him.. Sometime I just feel lost.. I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel... Every night I go to bed thinking that I will sure be a better day tomorrow.. A better start for everyone.. But when the day start.. It seem endless.. I even have the fear of bringing him out.. Yes... I'm crazy... My friends all told me that all parents been thru this... I really don't know what else can I do to change it to the better... I missed the days.. We are all good... Happy Parents, Happy Child.. Missed those days when i do not have to struggle with Benson tantrum in public or even my mum place or home.. Yes I'm tired.. Mentally, Depress.. I just wanna rant..
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Big hugs and hang in there! I've dropped you a PM.
Hey Wendy, jia you! You're not alone! And ranting it out helps. :) And when it feels like you cannot hang on anymore, remember that 'this, too, will pass!' It will get better. :)
Thanks MamaJ I really need hug badly...
Klessis.. Don't mind I ask.. How u handle it? I know is hard to advise but I'm really lost.. I didn't know what can I do to make it better.. It just seem to get worst..
Hihi, I guess we all have depressing days. Yes, even the happiest of people do! I hope writing it out helps you to relax yeah? One way or another, things are gonna get better so hang in there!! =) Jia you!
Agree with Klessis tt 'this too shall pass'. Though it may seem like it's here to stay, better days do lie ahead. :)
All of us have our good days and bad days.. it will pass certainly. Just have to remain positive and know that you are trying your best to bring up the child in the best way possible. Tantrums are a part of them growing up. The best way is to teach them how to express themselves properly so that they get minimized and there is less tension all around.
It's really tough when you have a strong willed child. My middle child is like that; still going through the Terrible Two phase. I shared a lot of my frustrations too, earlier this year.
You must hang in there, ya. You can do it. Only you are Benson's mom and there will be no other. The key is to be consistent, determined and to balance control with love, loads and loads of it in all you say and do.
I can fully emphathise. Please know you're not alone! :) Sending hugs your way!
This is part and parcel of growing up & gaining independence. Sorry to say but it will never pass because you will be handling different types of tantrums and behavior at different stage.
Discipline is a MUST so that we can raise a good child. Unless you want to be bullied by your child and let your child bully others too you cannot relax in this department.
Stand your ground, reason, scold, punish, discipline, repeat repeat and repeat to the point of nagging if must. Children have short term memory. And when they are angry they tends to forget the rational part. You can help him to find ways to express himself, release tension and anger, better handle his emotions. Perhaps all these outbursts will be reduced.
(hugs) my son skipped the terrible 2 and horrible 3s.... but now he is acting up at 7..... if you get the holy grail, please let me know too. At the mean time.... I'll just take it as part and parcel of parenting.
Big hugz, Wendy.
One thing i can tell u for sure is yes, this will pass, surely, sooner or later. And then, new challenges will come......
Disciplining is definitely not the only way. Spare the rod does not spoil the kids, no, it won't. try google terrible two to understand what the kid is going through now. He does not do it (the tantrum) on purpose to make u angry, remember that.
Stay cool, and stay positive. leave him alone when u know u start to lose it, go to another room to take a deep breath, calm down, and then go back to him. The calmer u r, the calmer he will be.
Take care!
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